Common Forms of Addiction and Problematic Use

People often seek support for a range of addictive behaviours, including:

• substance use — alcohol, nicotine, marijuana or other drugs

• gambling — including online betting

• pornography use — particularly when it becomes compulsive, secretive, or misaligned with values

What Keeps Addictive Patterns Going

Addictive behaviours often persist because they serve a function, usually related to avoiding or managing negative thoughts and emotions. Common maintaining factors include:

• stress, burnout, or emotional overload

• avoidance of difficult thoughts or emotions

• relief from anxiety, loneliness, or boredom (negative reinforcement)

• habit and conditioning over months or years

• shame and secrecy

• physiological dependence

Addiction in High-Functioning Individuals

Many people with addictive patterns are disciplined, driven, and capable in other areas of life.

They may:

• feel frustrated by the gap between their values and behaviour

• hide their use to avoid judgement

• tell themselves it’s “not bad enough” to seek help

• worry that others would see them differently if they knew

In these cases, addiction isn’t about lack of discipline — it’s often about unmet emotional needs or chronic stress without effective outlets..

Abstinence vs Control

Therapy doesn’t assume a one-size-fits-all solution.

For some, abstinence is appropriate. For others, the goal may be reducing harm, regaining control, or changing the relationship with the behaviour. The approach depends on:

• the nature of the behaviour

• your personal goals

• risk factors

• what feels realistic and sustainable

This is always discussed openly and collaboratively.

When It’s Worth Getting Support

It may be worth seeking professional support if:

• you feel stuck in a cycle you can’t break on your own

• behaviour clashes with your values

• guilt or secrecy is increasing

• stress or emotion reliably triggers use

• attempts to control or stop haven’t worked

• the behaviour is affecting mood, relationships, or work

You don’t need to wait for things to fall apart before getting help.

How I Help With Addiction

My approach in therapy to working with clients experiencing addiction focuses on evidence-based principles and draws from various psychological interventions that I tailor to your specific needs and goals.

This generally involves:

• understanding what role the behaviour plays in your life

• identifying triggers, patterns, and emotional drivers

• strengthening motivation for change without force

• building alternative ways to regulate emotions and stress

• addressing shame and self-criticism

• developing strategies aligned with your values rather than fear

If you’d like to arrange a session to discuss your specific situation and see what I can do to help, please get in touch using the form below

Telehealth sessions are available Australia-wide.